Indifferent Friend

[Nick Izumi]

So one of my best friends is peeving me off right now. He insists on inviting me to things which he has either also invited an ex of mine to, or when she's already there. This ex and I broke up on very very bad terms and I feel that I was not treated with dignity, let alone like a person. I'm not particularly interested in spending any time with her, especially not my free time. I have vastly more important things to deal with, including things I should not have neglected, and I really don't feel that anyone, friend or not, has the right to lecture me or tell me that not wanting to deal with someone after how I was mistreated makes me a bad person.

/vent.

[Neko Toast]

Is this mutual friend good friends with both you and your ex? Because then I can see why he wants to hang out with the both of you so much. I almost got stuck into a similar predicament with my two best friends. Luckily, they ended on good terms, so I don't have to worry about hanging out with both of them and having things be awkward.

I'm assuming you told this mutual friend why you don't feel like hanging out with him when your ex is around? If he's a considerate friend, he should understand where you're coming from, and let you have your space away from her. If he's forcing you to hang out when she's around so that you can get over the whole mess, then tell him that it isn't any of his business.

[Aminar]

I'm sorry man. That blows. I guess all you can do is avoid dealing with her while there, or not go.

[Boko]

Or just point him at this post. Honestly? If something like that pisses him off, then he really wasn't a great friend to begin with.

[punkincivic]

No offense, but are they dense? If they know what happened between you two, then why are they trying to make you see each other? I'm not sure she'll apologize just because you're around more often...